Top 5 Reasons to Mediate Your Divorce

By | September 29, 2010

Many divorces can be mediated.  The top 5 reasons to mediate your divorce are (in my humble opinion):

1.  Save money.  How does one save money in a divorce?  Stay out of court.  The costly portions of a divorce case are discovery and litigation (aka “fighting in court”).  If you stay out of court and instead attempt to negotiate or mediate your issues, the money you spend on professional assistance will go a lot farther and will be focused on resolving your case and not wasting time in court.

2.  Preserve your relationship with your ex-spouse.  Well, you’re getting a divorce, how much relationship is left anyway, you may ask.  You still need to deal with each other, especially if you have minor children.  You may need a bit of cooperation from the other person in the future (like swapping custody days, maybe signing off on property, etc.) so a civil (not litigious) approach to divorce can help to pave the way toward a civil relationship in the future.

3.  A specially tailored judgment.  Mediation allows you and your (ex) spouse to tailor a judgment to fit your specific needs.  In court, you cannot count on any outcome.  The judge doesn’t know you, your spouse, or your situation other than getting a snapshot of your lives presented over the course of a few hours.  Chances are, you’ll get a one-size-fits-all solution forced onto your unique circumstances.  By mediating your divorce, you can take control of your lives and negotiate a resolution to your specific issues that will better fit your unique circumstances.  Who knows your lives better than you and your spouse?

4.  Less stressful on the children.  Children are often collateral damage in a divorce.  Divorce is hard on the parties and even harder on the children.  A contentious custody battle is the last thing any child needs.  By utilizing mediation, parties can negotiate an amicable settlement of their issues and minimize the level of contention in the case.  Children will benefit from the reduced level of stress.  Parties may take a child-centered approach to resolving custody and visitation issues rather than fighting for timeshare.

5.  A quick divorce.  Rather than jumping through all the procedural hoops involved in a litigated (contested) divorce, parties can “cut to the chase” and potentially negotiate a final settlement of their issues long before a typical litigated divorce might get to trial.  Parties can move on with their lives and not have to endure a long and drawn out divorce.   A quick divorce means less stress and expense for everyone.

If you are considering getting a divorce the “easy way,” call our office to learn how we can help you have a quicker, less expensive divorce.